Blasts of Light

One of the most frequently asked questions I get is often “What’s a day in your life like?” People are always curious what it actually looks like to LIVE a life that LIGHTS you up and especially when that requires you running your own business. In this video I dive into what my days typically look like as well as the journey to designing my life!

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU! Please feel free to comment below with any questions or comments about what you’d like to see in future videos!

In today’s video, episode 5 of the LightMAYker series, I talk about self acceptance. It’s always the areas of ourselves that we try to hide from others that we truly haven’t loved and accepted fully. When we feel like we can’t be our authentic self with someone, it’s only because we haven’t fully accepted that part of us that we are holding back. Give it a watch to hear more and be sure to comment below and let me know what comes up for you around this topic.

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU! Please feel free to comment below with any questions or comments about what you’d like to see in future videos!

This Monday night video features my daily practice of surrendering my to-do list. As an entrepreneur (or anyone) writing your own to-do list can be daunting and leave you feeling overwhelmed and drained. I share about the tools I use to surrender my to-do list and listen to my inner guidance when it comes to knowing the next right actions.

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU!

This episode of the LightMayker series is about staying present. I go over a little of what my weekend entailed as well as touch on how challenging it can be to stay present at times and talk you through my action plan for when my mind tries to go into the future or the past.

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU! Please feel free to comment below with any questions or comments about what you’d like to see in future videos!

 

In today’s video, I share a bit about my weekend while hosting a visitor and touch on why it’s so important to keep your weekend sacred! It’s short and sweet and shot right outside my apartment!

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU! Please feel free to comment below with any questions or comments about what you’d like to see in future videos!

Launching the LightMAYker series, episode 1 (or day 1) talking about discerning “is it a bad idea or just outside my comfort zone?”. Often times, we come to a cross roads where something feels scary and we can’t quite decipher if it’s not expansive for us or if it’s just outside our comfort zone and would be a great source of self-growth, in this video I talk about my personal experience and how to find the answers for yourself.

The LightMAYker Series is a video every day for the month of May where I’ll be letting you have a more intimate, raw look at my day to day from everything to thoughts or ideas that I’m working through personally or with my clients, my daily rituals as well as answering any questions or sharing based on requests from YOU! Please feel free to comment below with any questions or comments about what you’d like to see in future videos!

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I had a really tough assignment last week, it was a bit of a curveball and definitely offered a large opportunity for growth. It’s those random thursday emails that shake you to your core and propel you into a situation you wouldn’t have imagined just moments before that really demand us to dig in to our tool box. Tonight, I checked in with myself and realized that part of me was still holding a resentment towards this person. I was upset with them for not showing up in the way I had hoped they would and I was disappointed. It was totally human and very much in my ego and illusion. Once I brought awareness to it, I asked for guidance and almost minutes later I heard the words of yogi bhajan “understand through compassion or you misunderstand the times.” and “the other person is you.” That’s when the shift in perception (or the miracle) came in. I was able to fully forgive him, see that he too was doing the best he could and we just weren’t aligned. I was able to center back in the truth after allowing myself to feel my human feelings and know that in truth we are all one. Seeing through the eyes of compassion helps us to remember our truth (love) and to free ourselves through forgiveness. When we hold a grievance, we literally stop the miracle. So if there’s someone in your life right now that you feel has hurt you, upset you or wronged you, take a minute and surrender the situation to a higher power. Remind yourself that the other person is you and that compassion is the cure. Sometimes this can transform the relationship but it also doesn’t mean that you stay in a situation that’s not aligned with your highest good, it means that you can let it go with love if that’s what meant to happen. Compassion is always the cure and forgiveness will set you free. Xo, C ✨#LightMaker

As you all know, I’ve developed quite the travel bug this year – traipsing around everywhere from Las Vegas, Portland, San Francisco, San Diego to Barcelona and Paris and…. I just found out I’m going to SHANGHAI the end of the month!!

Travel can be SO MUCH FUN but, let’s be honest, it can also be super exhausting and leave you feeling like you need a vacation after your trip. I’ve gotten a lot of travel-related questions the past couple months so I wanted to compile a list of my top ten tricks for you guys so you can use these babies to help you travel with ease and flow next time you’re hopping on a plane. Let’s dive right in!

1. RELEASE EXPECTATIONS. Before you leave and multiple times on the plane and when you arrive. When you completely surrender your pre-conceived notions about the trip is going to be, you save yourself from disappointment and allow yourself to be in the present moment. When you release your expectations and take it moment by moment, you actually get to be present where you are with who you are with and enjoy yourself more fully.

2. WELCOME IN THE ASSIGNMENTS. One of the reasons I absolutely love traveling is because of the epic amounts of self-growth that happen on my trips. Welcome in these assignments, allow whatever comes up to come up: that guy at the airport frustrating you? feeling lonely? one of your travel companions rubbing you the wrong way? Perfect! Where’s the lesson? Why are you being triggered? Use the wonderful little annoyances and bumps in your trip to be a space for learning about yourself.

 3. COME PREPARED. On a more logistical note, do bring proper supplies! For me this means my aloha daily greens for airports and cities with out easy access to green juice, my favorite teas (yogi – detox tea and organic india – holy basil sweet rose), and my all natural tooth paste and toiletries because we all know most hotels aren’t providing the kind of stuff I use at home. I also bring my crystals, some cards from my alter and my “infinite love” flower essence spray so that I can make the hotel room a sacred space during my stay. I pack myself lots of snacks for the airplane like homemade chia seed pudding, nuts and berries because there is nothing worse than being starving on a plane with a bunch of food you couldn’t be paid to consume. Oh, and lastly, a few good books, because any wait in line or flight delay can be made a little sweeter when you have some great reading material.

 4. LET YOUR DAILY RITUALS GROUND YOU. Yes, I do travel with that huge ACIM book and yes I do the same daily ritual regardless of where I am in the world and it is my saving grace. I wake up, make my tea (that I’ve brought), set out my special things and read my ACIM lesson of the day. I then do a twenty minute or so kundalini meditation. This has become a non negotiable for me, it grounds me and keeps me centered and connected to my highest self regardless of what chaos may be happening around me and I find is even more useful on the road!

 5. OPTIMIZE YOUR PACKING FOR EASE. Okay back to the logical, make your life easy and avoid as many minor delays as possible. If you’re going someplace with a pool or beach, pack your bathing suit and beach stuff straight in your carry on so you can check your bag at the desk and enjoy the sun if you have to wait for your room. If you’re traveling internationally, do the research ahead of time and get all your power cord adapters so you don’t have to go to a bunch of little bodegas in a foreign city trying to find one on your first day. Buy a suitcase that has a unique pattern so that it’s easy to spot at baggage claim and you never have to worry about someone accidentally snatching your bag. I’m obsessed with my lesportsac suitcase because it literally looks like someone painted it and has cut my time at baggage claim in half, also, it’s pretty and who doesn’t love cheerful things while at the airport?!

6. DO WHAT YOU WANT, NOT WHAT YOU SHOULD.  Learned this major lesson while visiting London by myself in my early twenties. I was running from museum to museum to show and exhausting myself and then I finally caught myself on the steps of yet another museum feeling super anxious and bummed out. A little voice said to me (helloooo inner-guide!) ” what do YOU really want to do?” Hmmph. I wanted to go get a cookie and sit in St. James park in a beautiful lawn chair and read my book. I was only running around to every tourist attraction imaginable because I thought that’s what I SHOULD be doing. Now I absolutely love traveling alone or in small groups because I don’t do the tourist thing. I listen to my intuition and I decide how I want to spend my trip. In Paris, this included many days sitting outside at cafes reading till the sun went down and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!

7. HYDRATE YOURSELF. Come on, even little miss holistic lifestyle coach over here needs to constantly reminded myself that I need to drink lots of water when I’m doing lots of flying. Yes, even if that means being the most annoying window seat passengers and having your row get up five times during a flight because you’ve drank a gallon of water. Better hydrated than not my friends! Also, when eating food that I’m not familiar with while traveling, water really helps me flush it through and keeps me feel good!

 8. LEAVE TIME FOR REST. Another glorious lesson I learned the hard way, yes, you are on vacation and even if you are not on vacation – if you are traveling for work – it’s still incredibly necessary to make time for rest. When I was younger I used to be obsessed with soaking up every minute in a different city and felt like it was a sin to sleep in. Now I know that I’m in a better place to soak up my surroundings and be the best version of myself when I’m fully rested. Much better to sleep till noon your first morning in Paris than to ruin an entire week feeling sleep deprived, groggy and half awake in a beautiful place.

 9. WRITE A RECAP. I’m so lucky to have a blog and an active journaling practice to really help me soak up every morsel of a foreign city. I love reflecting while I’m there about what’s coming up for me, what the experience is like, as well as writing on the airplane home or back in my bed about what I learned about myself during my trip. Even if no one is going to read you insights it’s a beautiful way to really cement the beautiful things you’ve learned in your subconscious.

10. GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO RECALIBRATE. I’ve messed this up enough times so that you don’t have to!  G I V E  Y O U R S E L F  T I M E  T O  R E C A L I B R A T E, I repeat. You will, I promise, come crashing down in the next week or two if you don’t give yourself a bumper of a day or two when you get home to just relax and recalibrate. I went straight into client meetings after my San Diego trip and it took me a long weekend the following week to get myself back to normal. Sleep is sacred.

 

B A L A N C E  is NOT one size fits all – it’s a journey for each of us and a conversation between us and our inner guidance system. I’ve gone through so many stages on my journey to finding balance and I felt the need to say something because I think some mixed messages about balance are confusing and misleading. I used to eat fast food every once in a while when I was in college because I thought that was “balanced” and even more recently I would treat myself to a vegan, gluten free cookie whenever I desired because I’d say “hey – balance.” What I’ve come to learn is that balance is NOT about supporting an institution I don’t believe in (fast food companies) or feeding myself toxic substances (processed, refined foods) – balance is about LOVING my body whatever shape it is and putting in it only things that I know will nourish it. Balance is never about poisoning my body because “F it! It’s Friday!” so let me eat that food regardless of what it’s doing to my body. For ME, balance is not about having the occasional sugary treat – I have learned that I can not handle it. I don’t feel balanced when I consume sugar, I become an addict and crave more and more and more.

Balance is about knowing myself.

I’m in no way trying to shame anyone who has a different version of balance – please I’ve been there, too! I’ve eaten the cheeseburger with a milkshake and treated myself to ice cream in the name of balance for years before I came to where I’m at today and I don’t regret a minute of it! It was all part of my path to where I am today.

It’s okay to be wherever you are because balance is not one size fits all – balance is finding what works for you right now and loving yourself where you’re at while being willing to see how that evolves.

Don’t listen to what works for me or anyone else when it comes to defining balance for yourself! Go inside, check in with your body, surrender your pre-conceived notions and ask what balance looks like for you!

Some thoughts for you ponder on your quest to define your own balance..

Maybe right now balance feels like being able to have that cheeseburger and fries when you crave it. So be it! Perhaps for you balance is NOT having that cheeseburger and fries because of how awful you feel afterwards. Only YOU truly know what’s going on with you and where you’re at right now.

Is balance getting 8 hours of sleep or is balance getting 5 hours of sleep during the week and then sleeping in on the weekends? For me, it’s somewhere in between. I do my best to get as much sleep during the week but really look forward to decadently relaxing weekends. 

For me balance has A L O T do with alone time. I get the energy sucked right out of me if I’m spending too much time at social gatherings during the week. I need ample time to recharge my energy supplies or I feel completely depleted. This is a relatively recent development for me because I used to be someone that loved being around people all the time and was petrified of alone time. It’s only now that I truly love myself and my own company that I feel very restored by my alone time. 

When does exercise feel GOOD and when does exercise feel like punishment? This was another part of my finding balance. I started moving when my body felt like it and stopped pushing it to the point of exhaustion because I thought that’s what I should do. My body likes to try different things, new classes, it loves cardio and yoga but it doesn’t like schedules or feeling like it *has* to do anything. Where do you find your balance when exercising?

The biggest tool for me in finding my balance and in enriching the dialogue between me and my highest self (or inner guidance) has been my meditation. Take some time now or later tonight to sit in stillness, put on a guided meditation or just some relaxing music and spend some time in meditation on the subject. Bring the thought of balance to your meditation and then release it. After your meditation is up (10-20 minutes ideally) then journal for a few minutes on what balance is to you. See what your higher self says to you and lovingly adjust accordingly.

Mentors, role models and inspiring people in our field are great and can be extremely valuable but at the end of the day, you need to find what’s right for YOU or it will be exhausting and draining. I’ve seen this a lot in my sessions recently with wellness entrepreneurs – “so and so is doing this so I should do that”. HOLD UP. It’s valuable to get inspiration from other leaders in your field but they are where they are because they are listening to their own ✨r h y t h m. It’s time to find yours! When I work with people I really aim on getting them in tune with what is going to be of highest good for them and sometimes that’s not at all how I went about it in my own path. I was blessed in the beginning of my journey by not being exposed to anyone else who was doing what I was doing. I was not yet in this world so I didn’t really know what everyone else was doing and felt like I was “winging it” with only my internal guidance system to direct me. It wasn’t until later that I started to learn what other people were up to that I started to get distracted from my own beat. I tried to wake up at crazy early hours or hold certain structure in my business that was NOT me and I felt it majorly. It wasn’t until I turned back to myself and marched to the beat of my own drum that I could truly embrace flow, abundance and joy. I hope this inspires you to dance to your own rhythm. Xo, C ✨#LightMaker 

Stop trying to force those flowers to bloom. You know who you are. You’re pushing, you’re not trusting and you’re trying to control the gestation process of all those seeds you’ve planted before spring came. It’s okay, I’ve been there, I’ve muscled through an idea to make a project come to life before it’s due date, a lot of us have. We’ve all also probably noticed that the most magical things, the biggest game changers in our lives happen in their own time. You plant the seed, you realize your intention or desire and then you surrender it to the universe and trust that you’ll be moved to make moves when it’s ready to come to form. When we allow ourselves to be the soil, we create favorable conditions for which something can blossom but get out of its way for natural growth. This week, take a look at the flowers in your life you may be forcing to blossom and the ones that seem to be blossoming on their own. Surrender your control over the process and instead focus on making yourself the container (soil) for optimal growth. Meditate, fuel your body with nourishing food and take time for self care. Today a flower is blossoming on a seed I’ve had in the soil for quite sometime I can honestly tell you if it had sprung up any sooner because of my own coaxing it would not be as magical as it came to be in its own time. Surrender to your spring. Trust the process. Happy Monday! Xo,C ✨#LightMaker